First They Came For The College Students

But your children aren’t in college yet, so you did nothing.  It may be trite to fall back on Martin Niemöller, but the fact remains that it’s hard to muster much concern for problems that don’t touch your little world. And now, the train is coming full throttle for your little darlings.

From the ally-prince of sad anecdotes, Tyler Kingkade:

When her daughter stopped attending class at Garfield High School in Seattle, she was suffering nightmares about being attacked. This hadn’t happened before she took an overnight November 2012 high school field trip, when she says a classmate raped and sodomized her.

Warkov complained to the U.S. Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights that the school district botched the handling and fallout of her daughter’s case, and federal officials are currently investigating what happened to uncover possible Title IX violations.

Don’t you dare ask the obvious question, whether Warkov went to the police after alleging that she was the victim of a despicable crime. That’s victim blaming, and the victims of crime are entitled to choose any means of vindicating their victimhood they choose. Warkov chose Title IX.  Yes, that Title IX, the one that’s wreaked havoc on college campuses across the nation.

As of the end of September, the U.S. Department of Education had opened 53 Title IX investigations at 51 schools and school districts — a tally that more than doubled since November 2014.

Activists are now beginning to sharpen their focus on the K-12 level, examining how schools — especially high schools — handle sexual violence, and whether they comply with the gender equity law Title IX.

The argument is simple. Well, actually simplistic. Why wait until college to teach boys not to “rape” by asking a girl out on a date when she would prefer you not.  By the time they’re college rapists, they’re up to their eyeballs in “sexual violence” by twitting unpleasant thoughts to women.

And now it’s come to a high school near you.  Will your child be victim or rapist?

But once shit starts flowing downhill, it picks up a head of steam.  Having broken free of the pedagogy of politics permeating college campuses, it’s not going to stop at the high school door.  Get real, parents.  It’s heading straight for your elementary school playground.

Consider this: several Minnesota public schools have hired “recess consultants” to create structured playground activities for students during the brief part of the day when kids are supposedly free to do something creative on their own. According to The Minneapolis Star Tribune:

Two Edina elementary schools, worried about the politics of the playground, are taking an unusual step to police it: They have hired a recess consultant.

Some parents have welcomed the arrival of the firm Playworks, which says recess can be more inclusive and beneficial to children if it’s more structured and if phrases like, “Hey, you’re out!” are replaced with “good job” or “nice try.”

On the surface, some will see this as teaching children just to be nice to each other, to be non-competitive because competition breeds winners and losers, and no child should ever feel the pain of losing.  And losing would make them strive to improve sad.

But, you smugly respond, what does this have to do with violence against women as they grow up? It’s not like some 12-year-old is going to get suspended for just looking at some girl, right? Virginia Postrel explains.

Behind these policies is the superstitious belief that vigorous physical contact and make-believe violence will beget immediate and future real physical harms — magical thinking that fundamentally misunderstands how children play and learn. Prohibiting rough-and-tumble play doesn’t make recess safer or kids less apt to hurt others. To the contrary, the bans deprive children of the very experiences they need to master peaceful social interactions.

There are forces at work here in the micro-social-management of young people that insist that the traits of masculinity, competitiveness and aggressiveness, must be “nurtured” out of children as early as possible, so that they may achieve a higher state of manliness without massive infusions of estrogen (which has not yet been taken off the table).  What makes for a real man is being more sensitive, more in touch with feelings.

Athletes and fraternity members are a risk to themselves and others because of the pressure put on them to act masculine, according to other events from the week.

One event featured a screening of the limited-release documentary The Mask You Live In, which blames “America’s narrow definition of masculinity” for the deteriorating mental health of boys and men.

By the time young men reach college, it’s too late. They’re already suffering the “deteriorating mental health” of masculinity, which is why they spend their time raping and committing sexual violence.  The goal is to breed that out of boys as early as possible so that they never grow up to be athletes and frat boys who will never be invited to a sleepover at Tyler Kingkade’s house.

Directors of End Rape On Campus are advocating to expand affirmative consent education into high schools. The social impact team behind the campus rape documentary “It Happened Here” has worked to facilitate screenings in high schools.

Crazy radicals?  Who cares?

Last week, California Gov. Jerry Brown (D) signed into law two bills: One that mandates any school district requiring a health course to teach students about affirmative consent — essentially, “only yes means yes” — and a second to require all districts to provide sexual education classes twice between grades 7 and 12.

Those new laws are causing the “It Happened Here” team to work on developing a program specially tailored to California schools, according to Ari Mostov, who works with the documentary.

When your kid comes home from school and tells you he watched a movie that day in health class, will you ask him what the title was?

“This has to be addressed from so many different angles,” Warkov said.

Or Warkov, accepting, arguendo, the truth of her accusation that she was raped, could have just gone to the police, who could have arrested the perpetrator. And all the little boys on the playground could have played fun games, like Duck, Duck, Goose, rather than Pretty, Pretty Princess.


33 thoughts on “First They Came For The College Students

  1. Foster Boondoggle

    You write “Warkov, accepting, arguendo, the truth of her accusation that she was raped, could have just gone to the police, who could have arrested the perpetrator”. Unless I’m seriously misreading the story linked within the Huffpo article (or it’s factually wrong), Warkov *did* go to the police. But for whatever reason (in spite of evidence of semen and penetration), the prosecutor didn’t feel s/he could win the case. “Emails show that the district attorney concluded that a sexual assault may have taken place, but it wasn’t a case that could be successfully prosecuted.”

    FWIW, something similar happened to the HS freshman daughter of a friend, who was forced into oral sex with someone she had thought was a friend. (He locked the two of them in a room and wouldn’t let her go until she “did” him.) They also went to the police, who said there was little to be done other than “watching” the perp closely in the future. The school has now sought to make sure he’s kept away from her, but can’t expel him.

    The tone of your essay is that these poor boys are being emasculated by not getting to rape adolescent girls. How else to read “…the traits of masculinity, competitiveness and aggressiveness, must be “nurtured” out of children as early as possible” and “The goal is to breed that out of boys as early as possible so that they never grow up to be athletes and frat boys who will never be invited to a sleepover.”

    It’s one thing to say that things have gone too far when Title IX is used to attack people for their writings or to hound boys out of school on the basis of morning-after regret. (Reading about that stuff is how I ended up here in the first place.) But you’re giving a lot of fodder here to people who think anyone who objects to this stuff is a “rape apologist”, because that’s pretty much how this comes across.

    OK, now bring the snark.

    1. SHG Post author

      Cool story, bro. Should I give you one about a falsely accused innocent boy to counter it? When someone offers their personal anecdote as you did, it tells the reader that they’re a blithering idiot. Was that what you hoped to accomplish? Now, on to your point:

      The tone of your essay is that these poor boys are being emasculated by not getting to rape adolescent girls.

      So all boys who aren’t feminine rape? That’s inane. But hey, anybody can read here and take away any damn thing they please. For a first time commenter, you certainly made an impression. Not a good one.

      1. Ken

        Don’t be ridiculous. We would have known he was a blithering idiot with or without the anecdote. It really couldn’t be more transparent. You’re not going to go through the whole argument again with another feelzer like you did with Shannon, are you?

        1. SHG Post author

          Nah. He’s just trolling. That’s what the “OK, now bring the snark” bit on the end was all about. His premise is well below anything worth discussing.

          1. Foster Boondoggle

            Nice job ignoring the entire first paragraph. It’s fun to see the lawyerly approach to argument in action.

            I’ll take another stab. What should the parents of these girls do? They *did* go to the police. In my friends’ case, while they are really unhappy with what happened to their daughter and want to protect her from further harm (she has been going to a therapist and almost dropped out for a semester), they think the police and school are doing what they can and are not making a stink. In the case you started your essay with, they appear to have not gotten any useful help from the school district. Acknowledging that the law is not a fix for every problem of society, what should they do?

            You seem to be saying that in the absence of a rape conviction, the parents and girl should just suck it up. And that trying to do anything systematic is going to emasculate all the boys.

            Perhaps advancing age is impairing my reading comprehension, but when you start your essay with something directly contradicted by the evidence you link to, it does end up being a tad confusing. And I’m missing the part where you indicate the “right” path to reducing rapes, contrasted with mocking the linked writers for wanting to castrate all males. Other than just pretending the incidents didn’t happen or claiming the girl is lying. “Should I give you one about a falsely accused innocent boy to counter it?” I’m not going for feelz here. I’m asking for a your view of the right *systematic* approach. It sounds like you’re saying that these girls should just grow (much) thicker hides.

            1. SHG Post author

              Sigh. Okay, I’ll give you one final shot. Horseshit like this is just tedious. Her claim was blown off by the DA as incredible, likely because she lied about at first (but with an excuse, which to some people means that the lie didn’t actually happen, except it did). But that’s where it ends.

              You seem to be saying that in the absence of a rape conviction, the parents and girl should just suck it up. And that trying to do anything systematic is going to emasculate all the boys.

              I don’t “seem” to be saying anything. Prosecution is where allegations of rape are tested. There is no viable alternative where, “well, if its unworthy of prosecution, then I just demand that the person I accuse be ‘convicted’ without trial because I say so.” There is a systematic means of dealing with this. It’s called prosecution. They have big buildings where they do it. That’s the system.

              As for the rest of you inanity, “the ‘right’ path of reducing rapes,” (and as always, with the caveat that rape means rape, not post-hoc regret, a beer or any of the thousand other flavors of rape that are prevalent these days), there is no causal relationship between being a male and raping every woman you come across. Maybe that’s what being make means to you, but not to anyone who isn’t insane.

              Now you’re done. This has been very enlightening.

    2. Sara

      Oh, please. Willfully misrepresenting your opponent’s stance because you can’t win the argument otherwise is not considered proper form.

      Even if you’re a true believer in “toxic masculinity” only a fool would think the way to fix it is to expect boys to act like girls and men to act like women.

  2. Weebs

    Do you remember when Title IX was used to ensure women had as many college sports teams as men? Pepperidge Farms remembers.

  3. losingtrader

    First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Socialist.

    Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

    Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Jew.

    Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me

    1. SHG Post author

      A new thread? Seriously. And did you not notice my mention of Martin Niemöller in the first paragraph? What do I have to do to make things clear around here?!?

      1. losingtrader Post author

        [Ed. Note: I moved this comment to a reply, because loser here kept starting new threads.]
        It’s a reference to Hitler or the Nazis. Oh, sorry, “Nazis/Hitler”
        I’ll get a real judicial ruling on whether you violated your own rules below this weekend.
        Of course, it will be after a few whiskeys, and only one side will present an argument, but you don’t have a rule I have to hire an ad litum for you.

            1. losingtrader

              How true. I like how Scott turned me into just “loser.” I appreciate that. It covers the bases better than the Yankees did last night.
              As to you, sir, at least my name said rapidly doesn’t sound like “Dick Hurts”
              Now, there’s a bottle with my name on it. You meanies.

            2. SHG Post author

              Hugs, guys. Hugs. I was thinking Losey, or maybe Losemeister, but they sounded a little contrived, no? But now that you didn’t start a new thread, I’m thinking loser may have conveyed an unnecessarily derogatory meaning, for which I am deeply sorry.

      2. Nigel Declan

        Perhaps you could screen a movie at the University of Simple Justice entitled: “My Home, My Rules: How Not to Be Stupid Despite the Interwebz”.

  4. Fubar

    Any resemblance to a press release from Playworks is entirely coincidental:

    You need recess consultants to ease
    touch-tag’s dangers on snark crowded seas¹.
    What your kids say at chase,
    they grow up to embrace.
    Aged intellects¹ miss this disease!

    Tattered coats upon sticks¹ just don’t care.
    To Byzantium¹ they should repair.
    We’re tired of their song
    ringing all summer long¹:
    “The new stupid is too much to bear!”

    Note 1. A certain form of hammered gold and gold enamelling set upon a golden bough might even hammer me for my hammering if it could.

  5. stupidmoron

    As the case is officially over and the family settled with the district this case is ostensibly over.

    But clearly being the legal eagle mind you allow yourself to believe you are (send the batsignal now for the followers to denigrate the poster or just do it yourself as you do it oh so well) the article was not accurate in detail. And Al Jazeera did a much better more comprehensive piece explaining what transpired, all the history of the case and the problems the family faced when they tried to get the school and the district to assist them.

    There are more than one sources of debate, discussion and dialog that are available to those with the willingness to do the research or simply Google “Garfield rape case” As the great legal mind you are you could get one of the minons to do it while you sit back and verbally abuse people which you seem to enjoy. Perhaps you could discuss a more recent case such as the male rape in Indiana. Or was it? I look forward to well nothing as my time here is done.


    1. SHG Post author

      Uh oh. Did I make you cry again? Somebody needs to push the pink button. Don’t fret. It even works for Seattle school teachers.

      1. Sgt. Schultz

        This is terrible. SJ will lose this depth of insight, you poopiehead, and all you can do is make jokes?

        But I didn’t know you had a bat signal. That’s so cool.

        1. SHG Post author

          I thought that bat signal would be cool too, but I can’t find the on/off switch. It’s very frustrating.

    2. Suzie

      You do realize that this post wasn’t really about the case at all, right? It was cheap literary device used by Kingkade to turn an anecdote into proof of his thesis. SHG just took the same anecdote in the other direction, because anecdotes prove nothing.

      I hope you aren’t an English teacher. This would be embarrassing. On the other hand, I suspect you are female, and that’s already embarrassing enough to our gender.

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