Word spread of a letter from mommy to her darling baby boy, written by Liz Corsini.
Dear Son,
You are coming of age during an exciting era; gender norms redefined, the proud
expression of pro-nouns, marriage equality, and the visible ongoing fight for racial
equality. There is no shortage of injustice and the #MeToo movement is now leading
the charge against arguably the most pressing public health crisis of our time, gender
violence. #MeToo is raising the voices of empowered survivors of sexual harassment
and violence. These voices are speaking directly to you my son.At 21 years-old, you are likely more enlightened and woke than your father and
grandfathers. You know enough to “believe” survivors and you would likely “say
something if you see something”- at least I hope you would. #MeToo has ignited a
national conversation, one that demands your active and informed participation. Many
have been inspired to speak out, though some mothers of sons worry that that their son
will be “falsely” accused of rape in the wake of national exposure. The good thing for us
mothers of sons is that while the majority of sexual perpetrators are men, the vast
majority of boys/men do not commit acts of violence against women.Rape culture is real and pervasive. Defined by the once deafening silence from both the
survivor and the witness, changing our culture is the next step. Like any movement, the
great reveal comes first. Hard work is what follows. Holding onto any movement
requires the members of the “privileged” group (that’s you) to leverage that privilege to
foster a more just and safe community. Without active and early engagement of boys
and men, our culture will not be changed. As your sister so rightly remarked, “gender
equality cannot be realized without ending gender violence”.What does this mean for you? It means that you have an opportunity and a
responsibility to contribute to change. You don’t need to lead it, but you need to be
intentional with your language; compassionate in your actions; responsive to bias,
aggression, and oppression; and engaged in the conversation.
To put in more concretely:
- Believe anyone who tells you that they have been victimized. You are not judge
and Jury. Only 2% of all reported cases are actually false.- Speak out when you hear people “blame the victim”. Tell them that a victim is
NEVER to blame- never.- Refrain from language that glorifies the sex trade and demeans women- pimp,
slut, whore, bitch. Erase these words from your vocabulary and call people out for
using them. Language is powerful- perhaps the most powerful tool you have to
create change.- As you enter the work place be confident in your moral compass. If you hear or
see a co-worker demean or harass women, address it immediately- either directly
or indirectly. Not reporting makes you complicit. You can bare this burden my
son. If it costs you your job then it is a job you do not want to be in.- If you see something you must say something. Intervening may not only prevent
an assault, but it will inspire others to take action. Being an active bystander is
contagious and can alter a single moment in time that could devastate the life of a
potential victim.Finally, son keep your sisters, aunts, friends that identify as female, and me your mother
at the center of your consciousness. We will help guide your actions and serve as a
reminder that we are never safe from violence. Your voice can help change our reality.I love you,
Mom
Perhaps mom loves herself more than her son. After all, what could be a more important lesson for a parent to impart to her child than to adopt an factually false and irrational ideology?
H/T Keith Kaplan
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How comforting it must doubtlessly be for this young man to know that, were he to be falsely (scare quotes intentionally omitted) accused of rape, his mother has not only already presumed him guilty, but would be the standard bearer for the mob that burned him at the stake.
There is no greater love than to sacrifice your son for the cause.
I think I am stupider for having read that. I thought you didn’t want to make people stupider?
Rise above it.
Dear Papa,
She actually says that women are reminders to men that women are never safe from violence? All women are victims, I guess, even the ones who aren’t. In other words, women need different treatment. Got it. Now, how is that not regressivism?
Can you please write me a letter that tells me that everything will be OK? Is it safe for me to go outside or am I really a walking victimizer unless I fall in line? I’m scared, Dad.
Much love,
PK
Be scared. Be very scared. Mom is nuts.
I’m sure he feels bad that he could not be the daughter she wanted.
Well, he could be. Just a nip and tuck away.
If he really loves his mother, he will take care of that today. Joining the oppressed women will ensure his mothers’ dreams for him are realized.
Why couldn’t he be? Gender is fluid, it’s not based on rational science anymore. All he’d have to do is announce he is female and become a xhi or chi or cha or ha or whatever the latest one is and then she will have the daughter she always wanted. I, myself, have been contemplating changing my gender to Lamp, but I’m sooo worried that if I do people will say I’m not very bright.
This mother actively wants her son in prison…
What woke mother wouldn’t?
It’s comforting to read she’s currently “Director of Adolescent Mental Health and Prevention Program- Bergen Family Center”. I can sleep easier knowing she’s spreading her message to other families and individuals as well.
God speed, Liz Corsini.
Who else would you turn to in your moment of adolescent mental health need?
Now they need to hire Mattress Chick as her assistant.
Well, she does have porn cred, though she could ruin any chance of mom ever having grandchildren. Then again, they’re not likely under the circumstances anyway.
I agree. She seems highly qualified to prevent adolescent mental health.
Prevent some other common attributes of male adolescence as well.
Sexbots. They’re gonna be big.
But only for one generation.
Ironically, the medieval witch hunters who pioneered Corsini’s investigative techniques also provided a solution to the Sexbot Apocalypse:
Put in your order early for the new Applie iSuccubus.
I always love when the “only X% are false” crap comes up. It doesn’t sound so bad until you look at the actual numbers. I applied that 2% to the numbers on the RAINN website and came up with 6430 falsies per year. I wonder what mommy would think of that?
Except the 2% stat isn’t remotely accurate.
Of course it’s not. But I’ll bet mommy would think RAINN’s stats are gospel.
Also, gun violence. And texting while driving, not to mention obesity, and diabetes. Oh, and I forgot opioid abuse.
Maybe, just to help keep things straight, we should have a different term for the “most pressing public health crises” that aren’t crises, let alone the most pressing. We could call them “fashionable causes” instead.
Bear in mind that “gender violence” is a rather expansive phrase.
Not crises, not the most pressing, and not remotely related to public health. Three lies for the price of one.
You forgot sugary soft drinks and sports drinks. You must recant or die!!!
When I read it i was wondering what MeToo had to do with the worst Cholera outbreak in the history of the world, then I got to the punchline and my face went all squiggly.
Mom: But they are victims, and you must believe them. After all, what kind of monster wouldn’t believe a victim.
Son: But, they are accusing me, mom.
Mom: Well, that can’t be right. Did you explain how it was consensual?
Son: Yes, but they said my mother told them they need to believe her. Can you write a note or something to the Title IX administrator?
Mom: Sorry, my darling boy, but you must be sacrificed to the #metoo gods for the sake of feminism.
“Dear Mr. Kotter:
Please excuse Juan for not immediately owning up to his horrific wrongdoing so that he can take his punishment”
/s/ Epstein’s Mother
Juan Epstein was played by Bobby Hegyes, who was in my sister’s class at Metuchen High School. His sister, Stephanie, was in mine. Neither, to my knowledge, was involved in a rape scandal, but that was long, long ago.
It seems his biggest burden was being born male. Mommy wants him to bare that burden. Is there anyone she particularly wants victimized in this way? As she said, the power of language to create change is powerful.
It is, indeed, a burden to be born male. There is never enough bacon and, in off years, your team won’t make the playoffs.
I fear you missed this: “bear it” vs “bare it.”
It is exceedingly difficult to refrain from using language glorifying the sex trade. It just comes out when I least suspect it. “Hello, honey. What’s for dinner this evening? What? Sandwiches? I’m not going to have to force you into sexual servitude, am I?”
Damnit. There I go again with my sex trade language. It is just so normative. Time to head to the lashing booth. Hope tomorrow’s a better day.
Imagine if it was just kale smoothies and you were a pimp.
WTF is a pro-noun? Is that a new movement? Is there an anti-noun movement?
(It’s possible that the hyphen is just a line break. But your link being to an FB page that’s inaccessible for those of us who choose not to be on FB – a sin unto itself – we can’t tell, you effete shitlord.)
A pedant shouldn’t call anyone effete. Just sayin’.
OTOH, look who’s using words like “pedant.”
At least I didn’t call him a pimp-slut whore bitch. Those words aren’t even in my vocabulary.
You’re not helping your case here.
Slut went too far?
Yeah, that’s it.
“Refrain from language that glorifies the sex trade and demeans women- pimp, slut, whore, bitch. Erase these words from your vocabulary and call people out for using them. Language is powerful- perhaps the most powerful tool you have to create change.”
If these words were erased from the child’s vocabulary, how would the child know to call others out for using them? Change through removing words through language, where did I read that before? Something about “But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought”
It remains unclear to me how those particular words glorify anything, but then, I’m not woke. I blame my mother.
That letter looks like it could have been written by Biting Beaver, back in the day. Right down to the tone that it doesn’t contain advice, but marching orders that must be obeyed. Follow the rules on pain of being denounced and destroyed.
Except, as SHG noted yesterday, following the rules is no protection against denunciation and/or destruction; but apparently the Mom here is rationalizing that away. Nice virtue signalling, though. Probably still making her feel good, amidst the praise of her peers and the shouting down of the un-woke who dare to criticize the letter.
Just another shitty day in paradise, it seems.
Perhaps the letter was more for the purpose of her signalling her feminist virtue on FB than anything else.
Her intent can’t be known, but I think it unlikely she would at any point admit that she’d written it for the purpose of virtue signalling. In fact, I rather doubt that her statement would be a lie, even if it were untrue.
Now, if the proposition was that she wrote the letter because writing it made her feel good, and posted it because her peers would agree it was good, thus making her feel good again, I could go along with that. It was an appeal to feelings, after all. But that’s about all the “purpose” I’d find credible. YMMV
They do not understand, or are indifferent to understanding, that the lynch mobs of the South had similar epistemic arrogance, if admittedly worse access to quinoa, brie and trips to Prague.
They also do not resolve the cognitive dissonance of thinking that way, yet reading “To Kill a Mockingbird” as if Atticus Finch were not a problematic het-normative rape denialist.
To answer Jim Tyre, “pro-noun” is hyphenated in the middle of a line in the original.
This one is the most stupid/painful to my ears: “Believe anyone who tells you that they have been victimized. You are not judge and Jury.” What does that even mean? You should treat criminal accusations as true because you’re not a judge and jury? Huh? If you’re not a metaphorical judge or jury, shouldn’t you respect the principle of the presumption of innocence, or at the very least withhold judgment entirely, rather than assuming guilt? (Yes, I realize that I’ve already put more thought into that statement than the author did; she was just spouting a cliché without thinking of what the words meant..)
Traditionally, the pro-nouns were “doctor,” “lawyer” and “cleric”.