Risk and Reward (Or How I Learned To Love Hate)

Following yesterday’s post about Tony, Turk  retwitted the post because SJ “doesn’t have a like button.” It made me think about the fact that people who disagree with a post here have no problem finding the “hate” button, leaving me a comment to inform me how awful, how wrong, how stupid I am. As I earlier explained, this doesn’t bother me, but is part of the deal of blawging.

Seth Godin, marketing philosopher, posted yesterday that everybody isn’t going to get the joke.



And just about every blog post and book listing collects a trolling comment from someone who didn’t like it, didn’t read it or didn’t agree with it (or all three) and isn’t shy about speaking up with a sharp tongue.


For those people, the message from the creator of the work is clear: “It’s not for you.”


Unanimity is impossible unless you are willing to be invisible. We can be unanimous in our lack of feedback for the invisible one.


For everyone else, though, the ability to say, “It’s not for you,” is the foundation for creating something brave and important. You can’t do your best work if you’re always trying to touch the untouchable, or entertain those that refuse to be entertained.


“It’s not for you.”

It doesn’t mean that whatever someone has to say is right, or his song is sweet, or his painting is beautiful.  Godin glosses over the downside a bit, but no matter how brilliant one’s work, somebody is going to be critical of it. If you can’t handle this, the blawgosphere is going to crush your soul.

A new guest poster at  PrawfsBlawg, a Touro lawprof, yesterday wrote a post that mentioned an Electronic Frontier Foundation amicus brief on the standing of passengers to challenged GPS data. It sounded quite interesting, but never said a word about the case, issue or argument. She murdered words for nothing, and I told her so, prompting  Orin Kerr to apologize for my bad manners. I was (and am) unapologetic, responding to Orin that someone had to tell her.

Orin was probably concerned that my less than polite rebuke would prove less than welcoming to the blawgosphere, as it obviously would. I was concerned that her post was vapid and awful, but didn’t have to be. If her fly was down, would anyone say something? I would without hesitation, because that was the case. This is the blawgosphere, and her fly was down. I told her and Orin did not.

Keith Lee at  Associates Mind write about my old pal Dan Harris at China Law Blog. While business transactions in China don’t tend to be of interest to readers here, Dan is worth reading because, well, he knows that he’s talking about.



I remember being a panelist at a Shanghai event a few years ago when someone in the audience asked me if I was ever concerned about offending people with this blog. My response went something like this:


No. In fact, I worry about not offending people. If we are not offending someone, we are not taking a stand. And if we are not taking a stand, we are not interesting. And if we are not interesting, we will not be read.

And if no one reads you, then you’re a tree falling in the forest with no one there.


One of the advantages to being a founder of a small firm is that I do not have to worry about offending some people, I just have to make sure at least some people love us.

While Dan’s focus is more on the side of garnering love in the sense of retained clients (the beauty of a very niche practice), his point is the flip side of Godin’s, that no one can avoid being hated, the ideas expressed are for those who get them, not for those who either don’t or disagree.

Yesterday, I also received a few emails from people who expressed their appreciation for things I’ve said here. Some appreciated the discussions about the practice. Some about discussions of law school and new lawyers. Some wrote about criminal law issues. Each said I helped them in some way. It’s good to know that I’ve helped others in some way. Maybe this explains why Tony was hanging in the Valhalla parking lot the other day. Maybe I have more karma points than I know.

There is no shortage of things happening in the world that merit mention and discussion, that wouldn’t benefit from a decent airing. Anyone who tells me there is nothing to write about is clueless, as I can almost always find a dozen things to write about everyday, my biggest problem being to pare it down to the time I have available. 

And whatever it is that makes it to the screen, someone will inform me is wrong, stupid or sucks. So what? No one can write to please everyone, and if pleasing everyone ever becomes the concern, then there is no point to writing at all.  The point is to express an idea, no matter whether someone hates it or likes it, that evokes thought and, if I’m really lucky, meaningful discussion.  On a really good day, the ideas influence discussion and perhaps produce a better outcome than what would have happened otherwise.

Risk is the nature of the beast.  Put an idea into the stream and see where it goes.  The tone may be more harsh than many are comfortable with, whether it’s called snarky or douchy, but trying to be polite so as not to offend risks obscuring thought.  It’s a risk I am unwilling to take.

Take the risk. Call me out if you think I’m a fool, evil or rude.  More importantly, if something moves you to the point of putting fingers to keys, make it count. Take a stand for yourself. Someone, whether me or another, may think you wrong and not love you for it. So what? Be a big boy and take the punch.

If you are afraid that someone will hate you, will be offended by you, and it stops you from expressing a thought, taking a stand, then you don’t exist.  No one will hate you, but no one will notice you either.  You will suffer no harm for being nonexistent, but you will also do nothing to ever help another person to beat a case, make it through a day, decide what to do with their life. 

Stand for something or stand for nothing. People will hate you for it. Get over it.









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15 thoughts on “Risk and Reward (Or How I Learned To Love Hate)

  1. Dr. Sigmund Droid

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    But Greenfield, I have to ask – do you think you have the right to shout, “Your fly is down” to a beautiful woman in a crowded theater?? I believe the U.S. Supreme Court addressed that issue long ago . . .

    Truth be told, I’m always on the lookout for beautiful women with their fly’s (flies??) down in dark, crowded theaters. When I find one, it makes me want to shout!! And makes the rest of the process so much less awkward . . .
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  2. Dr. Sigmund Droid

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    But in the Theatre of the Absurd™, and unlike analogies, absurdities can never be stretched too far. In fact, the more you stretch them, the better they are, IMO . . .

    Though I do agree with you that flies can be stretched too far. Dependent on the manner you initially grab them, when stretched too much, their wings will tear off or their bodies will break in two. Either way, the stretched fly ends up having a very bad day . . .
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  3. David Sugerman

    I had a beer a few weeks ago with a colleague who wanted to toast a recent victory. He made a resonant comment that applies here, I think. The things we do and achieve can have a tremendous impact on those around us, even while the doer is clueless about the impact. What the writer creates has more power than he or she will ever know.

    (In your case this is particularly impressive, as I imagine you often fenced with that unseen character who said, “He’ll never amount to much.”)

  4. David Sugerman

    Really?! Didn’t want to personalize it–comments alluding to one’s mother arguably cross a line. But I was pretty sure I saw something familiar in the mirror.

  5. Steve

    If you had a ‘Like’ button, you might just be surprised how often it got hit…but then you’d start to question yourself and wonder how you’d gotten so far off the tracks. Curmudgeonly is good…I look forward to those two emails each morning. Don’t stop.

  6. AlliG

    Years ago, I read something by Dershowitz that I have never been able to find again. It went something like: if you’re not offending someone, you’re probably not saying anything that matters. The world would be a better place if more people could live like that. Until then, I’ll just keep reading SJ.

  7. None

    I posted a comment elsewhere once on this blog, but was ridiculed by you so while I do like a lot of what you say, I don’t bother to post under my real name anymore here.

  8. SHG

    Even though you are commenting under a different named and nonexistent email now (I fished it out of the spam file, where comments with phony emails go), I know who you are (DJC, which are your initials, not your “real name”) and what you said before. The secret to not having a monumentally stupid comment ridiculed is to not make a monumentally stupid comment.  That option never occurred to you.

    You’re one of those special snowflake baby lawyers who thinks his own thoughts incredibly special. They’re not. Grow up. Man up. Shut up. Someday, you will realize what good advice this is and thank me.

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