What Happened To Gloria?

Dr. SJ “got her,” as one commonly refers to the means by which a housekeeper is shared among friends and acquaintances, a couple years ago, so Gloria has been a fixture at Casa de SJ for a while. Over that time, the relationship has been friendly. Gloria laughs at my lame attempts at broken Spanish, and I do the same with her broken English, which is frankly a lot better than my Spanish.

Gloria isn’t a very good housekeeper. She does an adequate job of cleaning, but not deep and she misses a lot. She was better in the beginning and has since done less over time. Only when she’s specifically asked to do so will she vacuum under the beds rather than around them. But she’s honest and careful with our things. If something gets broken, she’ll tell me and apologize, and I’ll tell her not to worry and it’s not her fault, just to make her feel better about it. I like Gloria.

I have no idea what Gloria did in “the old country,” or how she arrived here. She’s in a program that allows her to work, and cleaning houses around these parts isn’t a bad gig. She’s not inexpensive and likely makes more per week as a housekeeper than she could doing something more “dignified.”

What I do know about Gloria is that she has two young boys at home, who are cared for by her mother when she’s working. Their father, not her husband, left her for another woman and wants nothing to do with her or their children. He provides no support and has left her to fend for herself, so she does.

She occasionally asks me questions about her rights against him, and I try to help her as best I can given that family law and child support aren’t my specialty. But there really isn’t much she can do about it, as the father of her children seems to fade into the mist when he wants to. He works off the books, she told me. It’s not as if she can easily go after a ghost and she doesn’t seem inclined to rile him.

As coronavirus got real in the beginning of March, Gloria told us that she was informed by some of her “houses” that it would be best if she stopped coming until things were sorted out. Dr. SJ decided to give her a month’s pay in advance, as she would need to support her boys and herself during this down time. Gloria was thankful but confused as to what we were giving her money for. I tried to explain it to her, but it was unclear whether she understood. I suspect nobody had ever paid her in advance before and it didn’t fit within her paradigm. She took the money and waved good-bye.

Gloria didn’t come the next two weeks. There were no texts from her to Dr. SJ or to her, as was our normal means of communication. It seemed understandable, as who wanted to go out and face the unknown? We were told to stay home, and to the extent possible, we did. And we didn’t know that having someone from the outside come into our home was a wise idea anyway. Much as we liked Gloria, it’s not as if we had any clear idea about her living situation such that we could be confident that she wouldn’t carry the virus to our door.

In the third week, Dr. SJ got a text from Gloria, that she needed money and wanted to work. Could she come? We talked about it. In Gloria’s absence, we shared the labor of keeping our home relatively free of dust bunnies and soap scum. I’m in charge of doing bathrooms. I have a close connection to porcelain. and no fear of using power tools on the shower tile grout. In a weird way, I like scrubbing toilets, as I can see accomplishment as it sparkles when I’m done. Then again, I like polishing the silver for the same reason. Law rarely provides such satisfaction.

Still, we appreciated that Gloria needed money and wanted to help. To the extent we were concerned about having an “outsider” in our house, we were willing to take our chances with Gloria. So Dr. SJ texted her back to come.

Gloria was supposed to arrive at 9 am, and we cleaned up the house in advance, putting away our papers and tchotchkes that get in the way of her doing her job. Nine came and went. No Gloria. So maybe she was running late. No biggie. Then ten, and eleven, and still no Gloria. Dr. SJ texted her to ask if she was coming or did we misunderstand. She texted in English and then in Spanish, using Google translate, back and forth, to make sure she wasn’t sounding like some dopey American and actually communicated with Gloria.

No reply.

I set about my tasks, like a Porcelain Warrior colonizing a 100-year-old throne. Cleaning supplies had run low, and unless one was willing to be the first human hands touching “green” cleansers at the Stop & Shop, the shelves offered no solace. I took to a vinegar and water mix to disinfect, which smelled as if it did the job.

A few days later, we realized that we still hadn’t heard anything more from Gloria, so Dr. SJ texted her again to ask if she was okay. Again, no response. We grew worried. Was she okay? Were her kids? Did she lose her phone or get the ‘rona? We knew generally where she lived, but we couldn’t find her address in our papers. Even so, should we go in search of Gloria now, under current circumstances? No matter, as we had no idea where to go.

Dr. SJ called the friend who referred us to Gloria, and who had decided not to have her come while she was sheltered in place. She hadn’t heard from Gloria and had no idea what had become of her. Will Gloria return, get back to us at least and let us know she’s alive? We just don’t know.


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25 thoughts on “What Happened To Gloria?

  1. Hunting Guy

    I couldn’t find any appropriate quotes so I’ll just wish the best for Gloria and her family.

  2. Richard Kopf

    SHG,

    The humanity displayed by Dr. S.J. and you and recounted in your post was both revealing and uplifting. Not sappy either. Thanks.

    All the best.

    RGK

  3. California Reader

    Unfortunately, this is common amongst “day workers” and other immigrants. They already live in constant fear, and disappear when things get scary (for them). I’ve hired many over the years (both personal and professional).

    You may never see or hear from her again, and it’s just fear ruling her life. And no matter how good you’ve been to them, they do not understand there concept of loyalty to any “outsider”. They’ll take your bonuses, and never understand that you look at them as family. To them, you are an outsider, because they cannot understand you.

    And many will secretly hate you for your wealth/status/house/things/race/whatever. Wherever they come from only the oppressors in Government and (corrupt) business have wealth, so no matter what you say or do they believe you must have acquired your things/status by being one of the oppressors. (Something a defense attorney surely ISN’T).

    The psychology known as “Spiral Dynamics” explains the common fears of the people who live in “Tribal” level (Level 2). America is primarily a Level 4 (National) and level 5 (entrepreneurial) society.

    Over many years, I’ve seen the children of immigrants adapt enough to get the concept of the American Dream, and move up from the poverty of their parents, and understand and take advantage of the real opportunities here. But for many new immigrants, fear is the dominant reality they know.

    I do hope you see here again, but the odds are against it.

    1. SHG Post author

      I expected some xenophobic asshole to seize this opportunity to project their simplistic racist grasp of immigrants onto Gloria and/or me. I hoped not, but expected it.

      1. Sgt. Schutlz

        Surprised it’s only one. There’s a lot of “all immigrants are scum” experts out there.

        1. Eddie S.

          What are you talking about?. He didn’t say “all immigrants are scum.” If there’s a lot of people saying that I wonder where they’re hiding because I haven’t heard anyone say that.

          1. SHG Post author

            If nobody says that, there would be no need to reply since everyone else would similarly be aware. It was obviously rhetorical hyperbole, and obviously understood as such.

            And things “you haven’t heard” isn’t really a meaningful bar for a compelling argument.

            1. Eddie S.

              It’s no more rhetorical hyperbole than the statement he was objecting to. The statement is a dishonest paraphrase and should be recognized as that.
              The i haven’t heard was in response to the commenter’s use of quotation marks..

      2. Black Bellamy

        You know what I find hilarious as an immigrant who immigrated here with his immigrant family and lived with all the immigrants in the immigrant community and still keep in touch with the immigrants even though I’m an Actual Fat American?

        The science. Now I know why I don’t hate and fear the guy downstairs. You see I didn’t come from a Level 2 Tribal society. I came from a Level 3 Five-Year-Mass-Grave-Gulag-Plan Society and according to the chart I have sublimated my fear into fatalism. It’s all about the cirrhosis and the human wave attack now, forget calling my employer as to why I’m out.

    2. David Meyer-Lindenberg

      The Dunning-Krugeriest thing about this is the ultra-confident way you put all those people in a box. The Immigrant Box. Shit, do Level 2 Tribal Societies even have Boxes? Maybe that’s one of those microtransaction things?

    1. SHG Post author

      That song was a natural, although the Laura Branigan version seemed more likely, but I was kind of hoping more Patti Smith.

      1. Howl

        When I found that original version, it grabbed me. And the Italian lyrics are nice.
        Hope springs eternal . . .

  4. Tracie

    I hope she is well and didn’t end up hospitalized or in her home sick with covid19, or family sickened with covid19. I hope you hear from her soon

  5. Skink

    I ran the facts through my brain all day while doing other things. My firm conclusion is she hit the lottery. I’m very happy for her.

      1. losingtrader

        Lottery, hmmm. Yeah, but wouldn’t she at let text back to let him know she’s moving into the neighborhood,?

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