The word “civility” is a zombie, returning to life after being brutally murdered over and over. Most people, judges in particular, use it incorrectly, in lieu of some vague expectation that people will address each other kindly, gently and with respectful appreciation of each other’s opinion, disagreement notwithstanding. The definition of “civility” is much simpler: politeness. It means using the formal norms of polite society in discourse and behavior.
The problem is that civility is used as a dodge. Remember UNC prawf Bernie Burk’s polemic against the group Law School Transparency in 2013 because, he cried, of their “toxic tone“? Only moderated rhetoric that meets the listener’s approval for “measured and thoughtful” compels a substantive response. If they’re not sufficiently civil, as per the respondent’s sensibilities, he is relieved of any duty to take the substance seriously and can rely on their incivility as reason enough to reject them.
While the heated and angry rhetoric that pervades online discourse offends many, one might think it has become sufficiently ubiquitous that we’ve gotten past the cries for civility. Sure, it’s nicer, but norms of politeness have broken down on all sides, and more importantly, isn’t it more important to get things right than get things nice? Continue reading

