In an excellent post at, of all places, The Nation, JoAnn Wypijewski includes a very insightful paragraph that is worthy of stand-alone consideration. She began with the telling of her #MeToo story.
We both were young, 20s, but I was older. We worked for the same outfit, but I was paid. We kissed while walking home from a party, and then at the back of a bus, and then in his stairwell. He had made the first move, but only I could say, in the midst of our distraction, “Of course this means I can’t hire you.” He was an intern, I a department chief.
The declaration astonished him—whether because he sensed I underestimated him, I cannot say. Ultimately, he so surpassed the qualifying test’s requirements that not hiring him would have been absurd. Years later, a catty friend would say ambition alone drove the boy’s kisses: “After all, he was gorgeous, and you…” I was his boss and lover, he my assistant and lover, each of us on the seesaw of power and weakness that those dual roles implied until, over time, the temperature changed.
As you can see, it’s not quite the #MeToo story a Jedi would tell you. But Wypijewski goes on to make an exceptionally important observation: Continue reading →