The Violence Against Women Act is now 20 years old, and few attempts to micromanage public attitudes via criminal process have worked as effectively to change people’s attitudes. Domestic violence, originally conceived as a spouse battering another spouse but since expanded to cover far more, wasn’t taken seriously as a crime.
Some viewed DV as “merely” an internecine fight to be shrugged off. Others as a private matter between husband and wife, with the state best left out of their intimate relationship. It was routinely ignored by police, despite the fact that it was, without question, a crime.
In the New York Times Room for Debate, the Ray Rice video of his cold-cocking his then-girlfriend has raised the question again. The conflicts in DV prosecutions are complicated. Wives are reluctant to seek help for fear that it will just inflame their spouses, causing more harm. They fear destroying their marriage and family and leaving them alone and helpless.
They believe their spouses when they say they will never beat them again, whether as a matter of hope or psychological manipulation. Wives refused to cooperate with prosecution, having addressed the immediate battery, but then seeing further cooperation as more destructive, or more fearful. Continue reading

