There is a hashtag on twitter, #WhyIDidntReport, created in the aftermath of the accusations against Judge Brett Kavanaugh in response to contentions that the failure to report the 36-year-old assault can’t be explained. There are a few general types of reactions to the hashtag, some from people molested or raped as young children for whom no reasonable person can argue that their failure to speak out isn’t understandable. This is a very distinct group, deeply problematic for its own obvious reasons.
Others, however, fall along the spectrum of feelings, from not realizing they had been violated to not feeling they would be believed to mistrust of the police and the system.* The thrust is that there are reasons why they didn’t report their rape or sexual assault, good, bad or otherwise, other than that they are lying.
Can we not understand their reasons? Can we not appreciate their fears? Of course we can, and we should. The argument that any rape that has gone unreported is a false accusation is not merely absurd, but patently offensive. Continue reading

