The days when it was socially acceptable for a male to try to seduce a female into a sexual liaison are long past. It ended with a campaign of “no means no,” such that a woman who responded with a clear “no” had fulfilled her part of the social interaction to communicate, clearly and decisively, that she did not consent to sexual contact.
Before those days, the social expectation was that a woman who wished not to be touched had to act to physically prevent the man from touching her. He could try, and she could push back. Even if she uttered words that made clear that she did not want to be touched, a physical manifestation was necessary.
After all, the male could try his damndest to convince her otherwise, even to the point of lying through his teeth. That was the nature of “seduction” back then. It was an accepted part of the game played between a man who wanted to have sex and a woman who may or may not. A woman might say no for a variety of reasons, from protecting her reputation to playing “hard to get,” when her “no” wasn’t really final. Or maybe it was. How else would one know but to test her fortitude? Continue reading
